has happened with many a wedding, the goals start piling on: gift registry, save the date and formal invitations, pictures, a video, friends and family flying in from out of town who need accommodations and entertainment, estranged family members who want to come but refuse to be near each other, pressing demands from work, the church that cannot accommodate Grandma’s wheelchair … The list goes on and on, turning a beautiful and potentially simple event into a whirling icon of the complex intermeshing